Counsellor in Warfield, Bracknell, RG42
C. S. Lewis
Hello, I’m Claire, welcome to my website.
I am still able to offer therapy, but currently I am only offering counselling by secure video link or telephone due to the ongoing coronavirus lockdown restrictions. I will be returning to face to face counselling when it is safe to do so.
Does life feel like it's getting on top of you? Do you feel out of control? Maybe you suffer from anxiety or depression? Have you experienced trauma or abuse? Are you struggling with a bereavement or facing difficulties with pregnancy or fertility, or possibly pregnancy loss through miscarriage, stillbirth or termination? Do relationships seem to go wrong? Do you simply want life to be different?
Rather than struggling alone, could you benefit from a place to explore your thoughts and feelings with a counsellor alongside you?
As an experienced therapist I understand making the first move towards starting counselling can feel like a daunting process. You may feel anxious, uncertain and overwhelmed, but this could be your first step on the journey towards enhancing your life. By finding my website and reading this you have already found the courage to take that step.
As a BACP registered counsellor, I am committed to providing counselling in a warm, safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment at my practice in Warfield, Berkshire; close to Ascot, Binfield, Bracknell and Wokingham. I can help you make sense of the experiences that are troubling you and the challenges you are facing; to help you move towards personal growth and change in your life.
I am an integrative relational therapist, with a particular interest in attachment based therapy. I believe effective counselling is primarily about the therapeutic relationship that develops between the therapist and the client. I hope my website will give you a clearer understanding of who I am as a therapist, what counselling is and whether I seem to be a ‘good fit’ as a counsellor for you.
As an Integrative Counsellor I am able to draw on different theories depending on your individual requirement. I believe ‘one size’ does not ‘fit all’ and I am able to be adaptable and flexible to meet your individual needs.
Through my counselling practice I’ve made a positive difference to many people’s lives. I am experienced in helping clients with a wide range of difficulties and issues including:
I work with individual adults, on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period, with the aim of enabling you to enhance your life and to live it more fully.
I charge £45 per 50 minute session. I accept payment on the day by cash or bank transfer.
My practice is within easy reach of Ascot, Binfield, Bracknell, Camberley, Maidenhead, Sandhurst, Warfield, Windsor, Wokingham and the Berkshire / Surrey borders. With bus routes from Bracknell Train station, Binfield and Ascot stopping just a short walk from my counselling rooms.
In addition to my private practice I also work at a BACP Accredited counselling service in Camberley and a bereavement support service in Wokingham.
When you’ve had a chance to browse my web pages, please feel free to contact me, in confidence, with any additional questions you may have, to see if therapy could be right for you. I would love to hear from you. You can contact me by phone or email at the number or email address above.
Coronavirus and the associated isolation is creating new challenges for us all. Being concerned for our wellbeing or that of our loved ones, and being unable to meet with our friends and family, or maintain our usual routines or activities is particularly hard when you are already experiencing emotional difficulties such as anxiety, depression, a bereavement or difficulties in a relationship. Don't suffer alone.
During this period, I will be adding some helpful tips and advice sheets to my Support Through Lockdown and Beyond page to give you support from your own home. Topics covered so far include managing anxiety, depression, frustration, anger and grief and bereavement. Other topics to come in the following weeks and months while we continue to operate social distancing.
Loneliness Awareness Week
15th – 19th June was Loneliness Awareness Week
Human beings need social connection. Being part of a social tribe is part of being human, and most of us feel safest being part of a group. This is a result of our early evolutionary patterns when we hunted prey to sustain ourselves and worked together to fight off predators that could kill us. Being isolated, and the subsequent feelings of loneliness, triggers an anxiety response in us designed to make us seek out more social contact to keep us safe.
The amount of social contact we need varies from person to person. Feelings of loneliness develop when our individual need for social contact is not met. Loneliness is not about being alone – many people are very happy living alone or enjoy their own company. However, if you don’t feel understood or cared for, you can feel very lonely even within a family or social group.
It has been understood for a long time that elderly people who live alone can be particularly vulnerable to loneliness, and they are. It is estimated that across the UK, 2 million people over the age of 75 live alone and 1 million of those can go a month without speaking to anyone. Despite this, recent studies show that the loneliest group in the UK are aged 16 – 24. Don’t assume that because someone is young, or does not live alone, they can’t be lonely. This age group have a greater need for social contact than any other.
It may be obvious that a person who lives alone may be in need of a call, but remember it is often the person everyone else turns to who can be most in need of support – loneliness affects everyone! If you have a friend like this, reach out to them!
During this period of social distancing and isolation, more than ever, send that message, form an online group, pick up the phone, write an email or letter, send a card, let the people you care about know that you are there, thinking about them, and feel grateful to have them in your life.
The sense of isolation generated by feeling lonely can lead on to more significant problems with our mental health. Reaching out to a friend to say you need help, takes courage and can feel overwhelming, but if you don’t let people know you are struggling they may not see it. If loneliness has evolved into feelings of anxiety, depression, loss of confidence or self-esteem or has brought up reminders of bereavement or trauma, then counselling may help you address these feelings with a therapist alongside you.
Reaching out can help to reduce loneliness one person at a time.
"What a journey we have been on together, without Claire I wouldn't be where I am now, it's been life changing, heart rending and possibly the best thing that's happened to me. I have forgiven some people and let go of others, which I never dreamed would happen and I feel so much lighter for doing so. At the beginning I said "I want my life back" and I now believe I have." C
"I visited Claire once a week for around five months. I’m very thankful I found her as she was able to address and release anxiety problems that were created and left over from working for a large company with poor working conditions. I’m vastly more relaxed and emotionally stable after her work with me." P
"Thank you for everything you have done for me. You helped me through some really tough and dark times and I couldn’t have gotten through any of it without you. You are amazing and I will be forever grateful. Thank you." H
Thoughts on Life
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain"
We spend much of our time waiting for something to change before getting on with our lives. Maybe we postpone a decision until a stressful time has passed, hope we will feel different when a milestone has been reached, delay that resolution until New Year and then …….
During this time of coronavirus crisis, while we are in lockdown, it is more important than ever to focus on living for today, getting that support and making those changes to help us keep emotionally, as well as physically, healthy.
If you are struggling with a crisis or trauma, coping with a bereavement or relationship difficulties, experiencing anxiety, depression or low self esteem, getting on with life can seem impossible and this is where counselling may be of help and support.
Sometimes we are lucky and time does help, but more often we can't start to feel different until we learn to live our life right now - sun or rain. Having a counsellor alongside you can make all the difference. Being with a therapist who understands you and what you are going through doesn't change the reality, but it does make you less alone as you begin to make sense of what has happened. It can be the start of moving out of the storm.
Asking for help takes courage, but it might be what we need to avoid being buffeted by the storm of life.